July 29

My impression is that Mom is deteriorating all the time. Lor and Emily arrived yesterday about 6 o'clock. Prior to that Mom needed to uset he commode and I was going to help her but she just seems so frail that I called an aide. She was telling me that we shouldn't lift Mom on our own unless she was quite able to help, offered the ceiling lift. I told her that Mom had been OK the day before and we proceeded in the old way. Mom managed quite well.
As always the care aide left to attend to others while Mom did her part. I thought that I could likely get Mom up again on my own after the ease of transfer to the commode. When I tried to lift her under the arm she just couldn't help at all and was a dead weight. So I rang for Trudy and she came with another aide, Lynn. They considered using the lift but decided to give the underarm method a try. Instead of gently lifting Mom's arm, Lynn gave a great yank and hurt her back. Last I heard she had gone to the hospital. They then used the lift to help Mom up, found a huge pressure sore on her bum and decided that Mom should go back onto the bed until the nurse could have a look. Mom sure wasn't happy about that. It meant that when Lor and Emily arrived that she wouldn't be up in the chair and it definitely meant no drive!
Now I think that I have broken a care aide!
We visited for a while, had our dinner then Lorraine arrived to spend the night. Mom had almost decided that she doesn't need anyone to spend the night. What a blessing that would be - for me! Making a schedule just adds that little bit more to my day. But if Mom can be content it is not a problem.
Today Lor is going to visit, then come home and make supper and bring it back, we'll eat and then I'll come home. If anyone stays tonight it will be Lor and Emily.